Proactively Passive Agressive?

So, last night Jose made his announcement that we were going to church in the morning. His desire to go is usually dependent upon how much work he's done on Saturday. So, I told him that I didn't think that it was fair that he expected everyone (by everyone I really meant me) to dedicate time and energy to something that he felt was so important when he was unwilling to put forth an effort to focus on something that I felt was important. And then, because old habits die hard (especially the ones that seem to work pretty well), I said that I wasn't going to church until he was willing to dedicate equal time each week to making our family better. And yes, I know that I'm in the south and many of you (or the one person who is reading this) is going to think going to church makes your family better. To which I reply, that is an entirely different issue and we're not going there today. This morning Jose got Elijah and Isaiah up and they got ready. I reminded him that we hadn't solved this issue yet, and he just walked away. So I got up, in my pajamas and went to sit on the couch. Jose walked by me like 10 times, and 15 minutes before we were to go, I asked him if he realized that I was still in my pajamas. To which he replied, well I guess you're going to church in your pajamas. And then he said he didn't want to be Chuck and go to church by himself. And I just repeated that this 7 habits thing was important to me and I wanted us to try it. And if he wanted me to dedicate time in my week, then I needed him to give some time to us as well. I need to give a special thanks to Isaiah and Elijah who were able to answer Jose's "I don't understand what this is, it's not important, and it's xbox and tv's fault avoidance tactics." I didn't have to answer any of those questions, I only had to ask them to help answer. And when Jose blamed tv... I learned that suggesting that he be the first to lose his tv so that he could live by example seemed to make that argument less than successful to him. On another reflective note: Affirmation is important to me. But should I get it, I don't really believe it. How messed up is that? Isn't it nice to find areas of personal growth on which to focus your energies.